Are you with the right person? How do you know? How do you know if you married/in love to the right person? I believed I had spoke about it not long ago, but still, I believed people were not taken it into an account, since they always burst out into laughter whenever I show them I-AM-S.E.R.I.O.U.S face. They must had been watching too much Batman.

I had read about an article about the love theory from a magazine about 1 or 2 years ago, it is from Reader Digest if my memory served me right. Soon right after that, I had an awareness that LOVE, wasn't a easy task.

Every relationship has a cycle. In the beginning, you fell in love with your spouse. You anticipated their call, wanted their touch, and liked their idiosyncrasies. Falling in love with your spouse wasn’t hard. In fact, it was a completely simple experience. You did not have to do anything. That is why it is called 'falling' in love, because it just fall right upon you without any effort. Falling in love is easy. It is a passive and spontaneous experience.

But after a few months/years of relationship, the euphoria of love fades. It is the natural cycle of every relationship. Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother , touch is not always welcome , and your spouse’s idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive you crazy.

At this point, you or your spouse might start asking, "Did I chosen the right person?" And as you or her/him reflect to the happiness that you once had, you may begin to desire that experience with someone else. This is when couple relationship breakdown. People blame their spouse for their unhappiness and try to seek for a new spouse outside to fulfill their urge.

But, this is definitely not a smart choice, I am not saying that you could not fall in love with someone else. You could, and temporarily feel better, but you would be in the same situation a few months later. Because (listen carefully)the key to success in your love is not finding the right person ; It is learning to love the person you found.

Unlike falling in love, sustaining your love was not a passive and simple process, it takes time, effort and energy. You must be optimistic, open-minded and most importantly, be tolerance to your spouse. I am actually trying to give this piece of advice to Julian and Hui, I saw your messages on my phone ( Next time delete it before you gave it back to me. ), and I can't do much about you two, this is the best I can do. Be strong, my friends, create a long-lasting universe love.

P.S: A quote from someone : “We waste time looking for the perfect lover, instead of creating the perfect love.”~Tom Robbins